So I’m googling a question about phone etiquette and I come to this link about truely malicious people. Sounds more like antisocial or sociopaths than ‘losers’. Interestingly, doing the opposite of what sociopaths do probably wouldn’t be a good way to form a relationship because the sociopath is defined by errors of commission. Omiting those errors and you have no actions left.
At the library, the latest book by Gottman was already checked out, so I got some books on social anxiety and shyness. The former is a feeling of panic, the later is a feeling of fear. While interesting, I’m not sure we’ll all get to the bottom of the issue until we have the source code to the brain.